I've been seeing a mate of mine for 5+ months. At the beginning, things were great. He'd text me all the time, he'd check my Facebook etc but then it changed....
Were both in University and when he goes home, he usually lives 4+ hours away. Anyway saving the confusing I'll list this in bullet point:
-We were REALLY close to each other when we first started seeing each other
-He'd always makes sure that I'm ok
-He'd always meet me outside my lectures
-I confessed to him that I like him few months ago
-He told that he wasn't upset/embarrassed or anything
-He told me that he does like me too...but...he just got out of a 6 year relationship, and I quote 'wants to enjoy his single life', he said he doesn't want to string me along or hurt me in anyway. He just said 'maybe in time'.
-When he's walking me back to my place he'd always give me a kiss, and he'd always wait for me
-Called me 'hey sweet' in a text weeks ago
But...
-He hasn't texted me in 3+ weeks
-Yet he has commented on my Facebook on numerous occasions, in particular giving his opinion on a certain dress
-He had some bad news when we were out, I touched his hands, yet he didn't grudge or back away. He looked genuinely sad.
-Saying to my mate that were just having fun, and said that I feel the same way
Yesterday we were all having a BBQ, and I have taken my mates advice and keep my distance from him, and I did. We were all on top of a mount in a big circle and he stood few meters away. He called out my name about something that happened, nothing important but some of us go involved in the conversation. I sat down next to my mate, then about 15 min later my mate takes a phone call, and all of a sudden the guy I've been seeing sits next to me, while we were all talking about something else that happened.
Anyway after we had something to eat. Me and one of my mates (who took the phone call) decide to play passes with the rugby ball while everyone else was still on the mount. I was facing the mount so I could see the guy I've been seeing disappearing then came back up, looked at me, then he joined us. A minute later I get a phone call. I speak Welsh so he found it amusing (not in a nasty way) when I was on the phone. Afterwards, we were playing ball and a few of us came, so i decided to get back on the mount, when he soon followed me.
When we were on our way back, me and my other mate were walking at the front while he was walking few rows behind, facing my way. Then suddenly after a bit, he walks with his mate at the opposite road right ahead of us, I didn't find this weird until this happened...
By this time me and a mate were walking at the back of the group, and I could see him and his mate walking far ahead. All of a sudden, I see him and his mate just stopping on the side like a bystander, then he looked at me with a smile. I just glanced at him, then all of a sudden he walks behind us, then carried I on talking, without paying attention to him. It was weird, and I don't see why he would do that. It was like he was waiting for me to pass him.
Then we arrived at a mates house for a few drinks. He'd sit at a distance from me, and talk to other people. Then the weirdest thing. I walked down the stairs and back into the room, and 3 of the guys (including him) were going out to get some more drinks. He suddenly looks at me then looks down.
It's just like, he would talk to anyone but me. My mate (who's getting along with him) says reckons that he does like me. My mate reckons that he doesn't know what he wants...
What do you guys reckon with this situation?
I know this is long, and I thank you if you have read this to the end. Please help.